When I first started my healing and personal growth journey five years ago, my mentor asked me if I knew what boundaries were. I think I looked at her with confusion and thought to myself, “is she referring to barriers on the highway or fence lines on a school yard?” Lol. I didn’t know what to answer so I said no.
She explained to me after getting to know me after a few sessions, that I was a Yes-Person and that I need to start saying No 80% of the time and Yes 20% of the time. She enforced that I need to say yes only out of Inspiration, not out of obligation. I burst out laughing and said “oh I could never do that!” Ever since, and it has taken some hard core practicing, eft tapping and implementing on my part, but I’m finally there! And have been for a couple of years now.
Back then I was drained, stressed, overwhelmed and giving from an empty cup. I was depleted because I always said yes to others (especially family members out of loyalty and ancestral soul agreements), for fear of hurting their feelings, letting them down or worse case scenario having them think poorly of me and reject me.
Just this past week, a decision was hanging over me that I was avoiding, and the burden of it was showing up in my shoulders. (Everything emotional that does not get honestly acknowledged and released always manifests in the body). Just last night I decided I needed to put my boundaries in check again where a particular person was concerned (a close but external family member). I made my decision and communicated what I was willing and not willing do to. It didn’t matter what their response would be, I had my limits and my self-care which means keeping my priorities in-check and saying Yes out of Inspiration, not obligation. (Which can be challenging for empaths and highly sensitive people to do). But very doable!!!!
This is emotional freedom! This is self-care! This is empowerment! This is what happens when you speak your truth and stand your ground.
Are you often depleted? Are you a Yes-Person? Are you afraid of letting others down or afraid of rejection? If you are interested to finally step out of your comfort zone and practice setting boundaries and self-care, I invite you to email me at firstname.lastname@example.org Isn’t it time you started living your best authentic life?
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